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24 August, 2006The start of something new.
I’m not really sure how to start this entry. Well, okay technically I am.
Jimmy and I broke up last night.
I guess it’s been a long time coming, and although there was no big glaring issue, neither of us have been really happy for a while now. We didn’t hate each others guts, we weren’t fighting, I just could tell he wasn’t happy, I KNEW I wasn’t happy and I finally decided to say something about it.
It was a huge relief to hear him finally talk about our relationship. I guess once the pressure of being in a relationship was off, he could get it all out or something, I don’t know. It felt like we hadn’t talked about anything REAL in such a long time that it really touched me to hear him speak about it.
I wish he’d been honest with me and just told me his heart wasn’t in it anymore, but he said he thought it was something he could just work out by himself. He said he never stopped loving me and kept telling himself the way he was feeling was crazy. I guess in a way he pushed me away because he’d been distant but I don’t blame him for the way I was feeling. We both have grown and changed a lot, especially in the past year, and we are just going in different directions. Not that one or the other is the right or wrong way, they’re just not on the same page on the map.
We were together almost four years. We influenced each other in so many ways, and he taught me things that I couldn’t have learned from anyone but Jimmy. He has a unique mind, a great sense of humor and a strong work ethic, and I know he’s gonna go places in life. If ever there was a “good” breakup, I guess this was it. I have no regrets and will be there for him if he needs me at a minute’s notice. I’m happy that we’re on good terms and I am optimistic that we will be good friends for a long time.
And also not hating each other means I can still get his Circuit City discount, so that’s something to look forward to right there. :)
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I'm so sorry, Amber. It's always hard to step away from a relationship. *Hugs*
I'm sorry to hear that, but glad that it was mutual and not messy!
*hugs* I'm sorry that things ended, but I'm happy that you had a "good" break up.
::hugs::
its hard to end a relationship, but even harder to end it maturely before it gets out of control.
(hugs) (sorry, is that too cheesy?)
Wow, I have to admit that was a shock to read. But it seems everything is going the best it can go in this situation. So good luck to the both of you and congratulations on focusing on the positive.
I never knew a break up would be that smooth! Congrats on taking the adult way. Even though I've only recently starting reading you (I've pretty much read all your archives), I'd venture to say you're kind of my role model!
I think your title for this post says it all. Here's to something new. And good on the two of you for handling it as you did.
Oh Amber, I'm so sorry! Breakups are always fairly awful, though I'm glad to hear it was non-messy and you are okay.
I'm sorry Amber. You seem to have a great outlook on life and relationships, you will be fine my dear. Good luck to both of you.
I'm so sorry. But you sure have taken the most positive attitude. I'm never this calm and controlled and I'm probably twice your age. I love Jimmy's comment above too ... esp. since it shows you two really are going to stay friends. Now I'm going to go read your PR recap for a smile. Or a hundred.
I'm sorry girl. Cheers to the both of you for being so positive. It takes guts to be so honest and you should both be proud. :)
It takes alot of strength to see and act upon the changes that need to be made in our lives, kudos to the two of you for being able to do it.
wow. that is one of the most peaceful breakup stories i've ever heard.
sorry for you. but you sound like you're going to be JUST FINE. ;)
I'm glad to see that y'all are taking things so well. Verrrrrrrrrrrrrrry 'grown up' of you!
Aw, damn. What a shock, indeed. You seem to be handling it very well, but do remember that if and when you need a good cry or lolling-about-eating-bon-bons day (or week) (or month) over this, you can post it here and we'll all totally understand.
Wow.
I'm glad everything worked out for the best.
Best of luck to both of you (although I'm not worried in the least) ;)
I think you both handled this really well, and you seem so calm and reflective about this--that's really big.
Everyone else has wished you good luck, and given you hugs. It seems unoriginal that I should do the same, but I am.
:Hugs:
You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Okay, so that sucks a little, but ya know what? This could be the start of something completely great! Four years is a very long time without independence. We're young -- let's live it a little. :o)
WE LOVE YOU!!
Jena & Amy
I'm glad to read that you both are going about it in such an adult way. Good for you. I'm sure it still hurts, and that's okay.
i love you am. had a good time at lunch, looking forward to having some girls nights and i will help you with your RETAIL THERAPY. :) i'm good at it. i love you and i'm here for you.
Best of luck to you!
aww hugs! good luck to you both!
Friendships that are birthed from romance gone sour last a lifetime and in the end are often much better a relationship than with which you started.
Promise.
Love Mommy.
